It’s a common adage, and unfortunately, it rings quite true. You see, people often perceive nice guys as not having the bite and aggression to succeed, so they’re typically overlooked. I consider myself a nice guy (not everyone will agree) and even I tend to concur. Once you carry the nice guy tag, you can’t seem to shake off the label, so you’re kinda condemned to a life of mediocrity.
But being average and low profile is not a crime. In fact, I know quite a handful of nice guys where goodness is just in their nature as opposed to those who pretend they’re likeable while harbouring hidden agendas. And in many aspects, I find them to be so much more affable and talented than me that sometimes I wonder why they’re caught in a similar predicament.
In fact, being personable isn’t always appreciated. Recently, I’ve been advised that I should stop being nice in every situation because there’s a fine line between playing nice and being a pushover. You can be polite and civil but still be firm, rather than acceding to everything.
While I don’t disagree ‘cos nobody likes the feeling of being taken for granted or not being heard, I feel the world can certainly do with some do-gooders who want nothing in return for their acts of kindness. With this attitude, maybe I wouldn’t go as far in life, but I definitely hope I touch many more lives along the way.
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